Another Vent Sesh coming your way! While I know some of these “seshes” can be weighty, I hope you leave these posts feeling inspired, encouraged or even with a slight mind-shift to a topic you hadn’t thought about before. I was so touched when someone recently shared that they never thought about how harsh it might be to ask someone when they’re getting pregnant or married until reading a Vent Sesh on the topic. It sounds innocent enough yet the answers can be so deeply personal.
For this Vent Sesh, I’m compelled to touch on body image. This has been on my mind for months because I have been told on multiple occasions (mostly from older generations), right in front of my daughter, that “oh look how she’s slimmed down” or “her cheeks don’t look as chubby as they used to” and other similar comments about my two and a half year old. Yes that might be true, but, umm, hello, she’s standing right there and she soaks it all in. ALL of it.
I never want my daughter to think she’s anything less than perfect especially when it comes to her looks or her brains. I’m sure they’ll be moments we’ll have to deal with down the line of others making her feeling inferior (awful to think about) yet it should never come from her family or loved ones. Trust me, I know this is all said so, so innocently yet it got me thinking… is this how it all starts? Is it at such a young age that we start to consider our body image and wonder what needs to be thinner, better, less chubby? Granted my little girl doesn’t realize all of this now, but she will.
And, at our age, in our 20s, 30s, 50s and 70s we are constantly bombarded by others around us, comparing, comments, and insults to ourselves. It reminds me of the Mean Girls movie moment where they all stand around the mirror and insult themselves and Lindsay Lohan’s character realizes she needs to find and vocalize faults in herself to fit in.
I could rant on and on about body image yet I just needed to use this forum for one minute (ok, maybe three to five) to share how important it is that we are always highlighting the best in each other at age two or 72. And, not in some backhanded compliment sort of way. Genuine, heartfelt ways.
Does this make sense or am I crazy mom? Maybe a bit of both? Would love for you to comment below with your thoughts.